messy situations

a friend of mine called me last nite, in search of a listening ear. we used to be much closer than now.. though we haven't been keeping in very close contact, we do meet up for an occasional meal sometimes... frankly there're times when i din really wanna be available for her.. dun like the idea of being too depended upon... anyone in distress needs to learn how to get out of their mess by themselves after someone offered a supporting hand... anyway i really cant bring myself to think that if she cant find someone to talk to, tragedy might follow...

it was the second episode of this season... she smsed me a couple of weeks ago while i was away in malacca.. wanting to meet up to talk... apparently she got herself into some sort of trouble... she was into a man...an office colleague.. who's married...

it din started out straight for this outcome, or rather, it was juz a pure complementary filling up for companionship, or juz company-ship... perhaps it was juz her nature... sometimes ppl who are more critical will despise her... that's why at work or outside, she doesn't haf many friends to hang around with... he on the other hand, i supposed, is looking out for someone who he can shower some concern and attention for... the lady at home seems to be rather indifferent after a few years into marriage with kids...

rationally speaking, she shld pull herself out of this mess asap, b4 she gets even deeper into the shit. i know it's easy for me a 3rd party to say this, but asking her to alienate herself at work seems almost impossible. not only for her.. even i cant bring myself to be friendless.. but at least i haf a partner for companion.. she doesn't haf another special someone.. other then this colleague..

it shldn't haf happened, but they got physically intimate... fortunately not to the point of regret (he hasn't got into her pants)... hmm.... but i think even so they're already regreting... from my point of view... i think it's very painstaking for a husband to be unfaithful to his wife and kids... i dunno this family personally so i cant comment very objectively also... it juz seems to me that both adults in this marriage shld be responsible and careful abt their relationship.. to me any relationship, be it marriage, or BGR, or juz friendship... all of them requires attention and some maintenance.. or else u could haf juz drifted apart... from day-to-day work, distractions, lifestyle changes... b4 u know it, the gap might be too big to fix....

i think im becoming a better person every time i offered myself to be confided in... learning from ppl's mistake is better than commiting ur own, then learning from them ya?